Managing Grief Over the Holidays …
brought to you by Elizabeth Garland with Soul Nourishing
Good grief! The holidays can surely frazzle one’s nerves with extra food to prepare, gifts to buy and places to go; it doesn’t get any easier when we lose a loved one. The ‘empty chair’ in the room can be a reminder.
1. Allow the griever(s) the freedom to express how they feel.
2. Honor & acknowledge the loss when friends & family gather for old traditions.
3. Create new traditions so something fresh is happening.
4. Know how triggers such as alcohol, television, etc. affect the griever.
5. Avoid falling in the trap of “retail therapy” & shopping too much.
6. Create a connection with a grieving person as to avoid an isolating feeling.
7. Avoid saying “I know how you feel”, & acknowledge that in truth, you do not. An alternate phrase may be “That must feel like the rug has been pulled out from under your feet.”
8. Be a heart with ears. If you have created a safe and sacred place for them to open up, allow the griever to share without interruption, analysis or comparison. Just listen.
9. Don’t try to fix them. The griever is not broken.
10. Grief is a natural process and has a timeline. It will end.
In love, light & gratitude,
Elizabeth Garland, M.S., CPLC, MNLP, GRS
Founder & Personal Development Coach of Soul Nourishing, LLC
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