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Moving Towards or Moving Away From?

What motivates you more, moving towards or moving away from something? When I have asked this random question to multiple people, it is about 50/50. Half get great feedback from a period of reflection, looking back of the moments of challenge and/or triumph, and discovering how to improve their performance. They also determine what they do not want in their lives and what they want to move away from…. quickly! The other half seem to enjoy planning their futures, spending very little time looking back, but setting clear milestones and measureable goals. They hit the ground running with forward motion! Both styles work for the different personalities! Neither is a waste of time. The things we may learn from being open to allowing one another to be who they are and going through the world in that way. We can learn much from each other. Some folks benefit from blending both styles, identifying what did or did not work and where they want to go next. Clarity is so helpful! Can you imagine if we kept walking down the same path, blinders on, for 2 or 20 years, only to discover it brought us to the wrong destination? Looking up and around every so often gives us a chance to ensure not only “are we are on the correct road?”, but to ask the important question, “do we want to be doing this at all?”!!! Imagine that!

So which are you, oh Soul Explorer? A Reflector? Or an Accelerator?  Or a little of both?!

Join me for our Goals with Soul group workshop on Tuesday, January 7th, from 9-11:30am.  Cost is $29. What a great way to start the New Year & align your values with your intentions! Please RSVP to ensure your spot for the group goal setting discussion. Please contact me for more details at egarland@soulnourishing.com or 210.218.2075.

A group setting not for you and you prefer one-on-one attention? Please consider booking an initial 90-minute private coaching session. You will walk away with valuable insight, tools and personal goals. Please visit http://soulnourishing.com/ and contact me for more details at egarland@soulnourishing.com or 210.218.2075.

The new Soul Nourishing office is located at:

19315 Nacogdoches Road (FM 2252), Suite 302

San Antonio, TX 78266

(This is located north of Bat Cave Road & south of 3009, just over the line entering Garden Ridge area. We are located in the Ashley Oaks Executive Park office suites, building three.).

 

In love, light and gratitude,

Betsey

Elizabeth Garland, M.S., CPLC, MNLP, CGRS

Founder & Personal Development Coach of Soul Nourishing, LLC

www.soulnourishing.com

egarland@soulnourishing.com

210.218.2075

Copyright  Soul Nourishing 2011-2014

 

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Managing Grief Over the Holidays

Managing Grief Over the Holidays …

brought to you by Elizabeth Garland with Soul Nourishing

Good grief! The holidays can surely frazzle one’s nerves with extra food to prepare, gifts to buy and places to go; it doesn’t get any easier when we lose a loved one. The ‘empty chair’ in the room can be a reminder.

1. Allow the griever(s) the freedom to express how they feel.

2. Honor & acknowledge the loss when friends & family gather for old traditions.

3. Create new traditions so something fresh is happening.

4. Know how triggers such as alcohol, television, etc. affect the griever.

5. Avoid falling in the trap of “retail therapy” & shopping too much.

6. Create a connection with a grieving person as to avoid an isolating feeling.

7. Avoid saying “I know how you feel”, & acknowledge that in truth, you do not. An alternate phrase may be “That must feel like the rug has been pulled out from under your feet.”

8. Be a heart with ears. If you have created a safe and sacred place for them to open up, allow the griever to share without interruption, analysis or comparison. Just listen.

9. Don’t try to fix them. The griever is not broken.

10. Grief is a natural process and has a timeline. It will end.

 

In love, light & gratitude,

Elizabeth Garland, M.S., CPLC, MNLP, GRS

Founder & Personal Development Coach of Soul Nourishing, LLC

www.soulnourishing.com

egarland@soulnourishing.com

210.218.2075

Copyright  Soul Nourishing 2011-2013

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I'm Back

I apologize for not posting on here the last few months. I was writing every month, multiple times, for the last couple years, & then I drifted off as I got busy interacting with more clients face-to-face. But that’s what it’s about, right? Connecting with others, building a business, learning how to balance things, learning what works, what stays, what goes, where do we fertilize so the garden grows?! 😀

Speaking of which …. There is so much busting inside of me right now …. I just might be typing for awhile.

I appreciate your patience.

Thank you for allowing me to connect with you virtually, interpersonally, and find my way through the weeds to nourish our souls together!

Love, Betsey

 

In Love, Light and Gratitude,

Elizabeth Garland, M.S., CPLC, MNLP, GRS

Founder  & Personal Development Coach of Soul Nourishing, LLC

tel. 210.218.2075

egarland@soulnourishing.com

www.soulnourishing.com

Soul Nourishing Copyright 2011-2013

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Let Go & Flourish

 

Sorry if I have not been around as much. The last few days have been busy for me, getting started with the contractors at the house! We are tackling much needed exterior repairs & installing new-to-me appliances in my kitchen. The kitchen, like other areas of the house, is receiving it’s Spring cleaning.

This really has made a difference.

Over six months ago I made a promise to myself that I was going to go visit, de-clutter, weed & polish the emotional, physical, mental & spiritual house I live & breathe in, & interact within. If this meant get rid of stuff, I did it. If it meant make new friends, I did it. If it meant change my diet, I ate new things. If it meant be open to new opportunities, I was & still am.

Some things I was brave enough to ask for. Some things I had find the grace to accept when they arrived. Others, the strength & respect to speak up & say ‘no thanks’.

Through it all I reminded myself of one thing: Be true to myself. Find that gem in the rubble & let it shine true.

I share this with you as some of you may also be sitting on sharp toxic bedrock of negativity like I had found myself. Take your fertile seeds & plant them where you will be creative. Cultivate this sacred place both inside yourself & in your external environment so you flourish daily. Prioritize your wellness!

May you be blessed in all you do! Enjoy the weekend!
In Love, Light and Gratitude,

Elizabeth Garland, M.S., NLPP, GRS

Founder  & Personal Development Coach of Soul Nourishing, LLC

tel. 210.218.2075

egarland@soulnourishing.com

www.soulnourishing.com

Soul Nourishing Copyright 2011-2013

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The Path of Many Blessings

As the weather begins to cool this Fall evening, I am grateful for the breezes as they pass over me. I walk along this path daily, yet it seems fresh and new today. Maybe because my neighbor just mowed his lawn, or perhaps it’s the blooming yellow and orange flowers in the planters. I am grateful for the bright colors and I am appreciative of the fresh grass. These cheer me up. But most of all, I am thankful I am walking, walking pain-free, walking with love and joy in my heart, walking along this path with my little brown dog.

At times Life has a bunch of twists and turns, and sometimes we learn to roll with them and go with the flow. You may have heard me speak of the “little blue trucks” in life, just another name I have for challenging situations or people that pass by us, sometimes running us over as they go. We have a choice – lay in the street and give up? Sit on the curb and wait for an apology? But I am not doing either of those, I am walking. I am thankful for the challenges. All of them. Lessons that shape character, wisdom and integrity. I am so very blessed!

I am walking towards Home, where loved ones await. As I get closer, I begin to think of each of them. I am thankful for my Loved Ones, as they make my heart sing. I enjoy sharing laughs with them. I look forward to sharing this evening with them. A roast has been in the oven, slow cooking with potatoes and vegetables. The whole house smelled delicious when I left to go on this walk, so it should be done when I return. I think we’ll serve it with some crusty bread I just brought home. Life is good. I am happy and content. My dog is excited too, because he knows he gets some scraps tonight!

Where are you headed and what blessings are along your path? I invite you to be present and mindful of them, all of them, the many gifts and lessons you have received with a grateful heart.

In love and light,

Elizabeth Garland,

www.soulnourishing.com

 

Copyright 2012 Soul Nourishing

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Healing Your Inner Frankenstein

Have you read Mary Shelley’s original novel, or seen the different movie adaptations of ‘Frankenstein’? Or  perhaps seen the Mel Brooks spoof, ‘Young Frankenstein’?  I was watching it recently during my list of Halloween favorites. Many of you have been introduced to this classic tale of duality, ugliness and compassion. So I propose to you a question – “Who was the true Monster?” Let that sit for a minute and we’ll come back to it.

In recovery, self-help and the multitude of therapeutic options out there, we learn that we are not broken, there is nothing wrong with us, we are an example of the Divine and part of the healing is learning to accept ourselves as we are, flaws and all. In the same regard, we learn to love others with this same compassion and understanding, and perhaps eventually, forgiveness. On the flip side, some cannot accept these theories. They do not see others who have hurt or abused them, or those they loved, as acceptable, and rather they see the ugliness, cruel nature, and fractured personalities. The perpetrator of these unforgiveable or misunderstood acts is outcast and isolated from society. Maybe they deserve this treatment for such heinous acts. Or maybe not – after all – how are we to determine this and who is to judge? So, now I ask the question again, “Who is the true Monster?”

In the story of ‘Frankenstein’, I believe we have multiple monsters:  Victor Frankenstein (the mad scientist doctor), the male monster, the female monster, and Society. Society in it’s own way created Victor, who then created the male and female monsters, who really are versions of himself and his longing. The storyline is about Responsibility, Morality, Blame, Fear, Isolation, Compassion and Acceptance. Now that I have removed pitchforks and lightning rods, can you relate to that?  I thought so. We each have had a piece or part of this in our own lives at some point or another, perhaps in the distant past or maybe today.  It is possible that when we react to others in judgment, the ‘sutures’ of our own healed ‘parts’ are being gently tugged, ever so slightly. It is at that moment we can remind ourselves to act with compassion and love, allow the opportunity for better understanding and avoiding misperceptions of the Monster outside ourselves, and not become a Monster inside.

In love and light,

Elizabeth Garland, CEO & Soul Coach with Soul Nourishing, LLC

www.soulnourishing.com

Copyright 2012 Soul Nourishing

 

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Hope as a Soul Anchor

 

“We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.”  ~ Hebrews 6:19

“Never deprive someone of hope – it might be all they have.”  ~ H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

What is Hope?  I cannot poke it. I cannot smell or taste it. I’ve tried to see it but have had no such luck yet. Expecting to hear chimes, I hear nothing. The closest I can come to describing it with my senses is the Place where Calmness, Serenity, Desire, Wisdom, Knowing and Intuition all blend together.  So, what is Hope to you?

Many people use the word “hope” just as they do the word “wish.” It is much greater than that. What is hope? The dictionary tells us that hope is “a yearning with expectation or anticipation.” The Greek definition of hope means “to be intensely expectant, to be confidently looking forward to something you fully expect to happen.” Do you desire something to be different in your life? To be better in the lives of your entire family? Do you desire to be out of debt or to help meet the needs of others? Hope or anticipation may be the anchor of your soul.

That got me thinking more about this symbolism and the metaphor of Hope. The anchor has been interpreted in different ways throughout history.  The Anchor is the Victorian symbol for Hope. Early Christians used the anchor as a disguised cross, and as a marker to guide the way to secret meeting places. The anchor was a key Christian symbol during the period of Roman persecution. The first century symbol wasn’t the cross; it was the anchor. Christians were being burned at the stake and thrown to the lions, so hiding their faith was important at that time. Thank goodness that doesn’t happen anymore! Yes, intolerance is a fact. However, acceptance and toleration of diversity in our belief structures and religions is more widely supported in modern society.

The Anchor symbol can also be found alongside a heart and cross in charms, necklaces, artwork, etc., as “Faith, Hope and Charity” or “Faith, Hope and Love.”  Sometimes these items are simply found in sets of three rings with just the words on the rings. I recall when my sister was going through surgery several years ago, I bought two necklaces, one for her and one for me, so that we could wear them during that time period and any other time when we wanted to feel connected across the distance. The mere act of hooking the clasps around our necks and wearing them brought good feelings to us both. In this case the charm necklace served as an ‘emotional anchor’, so that whenever we wear it, we get those feelings.

The word ‘Anchor’ is also defined as “something that serves to hold an object firmly in place.” An anchor keeps you from drifting. Hope can keep our soul – which is made up of the combination of our heart, mind, and body – at rest, safe as if anchored in the harbor. Where is your safe harbor? Is it a special place at home, or the home itself? Or is it your family or loved ones who are like family to you? Is it a place of worship or a natural place to meditate? Now, when the waves are crashing against your ship, and you’re in the middle of turbulence at sea, you do not want to drop the anchor and possibly sink. Let’s think about the proper use of this metaphor and how it applies to your life! The ship is the vessel that is allowing you to go with the Flow. It provides direction as well as support when one is in ‘troubled waters’ (i.e., anxiety, worry, doubt, depression, negative talk, avoidance, replacement, escapism, over-indulgence, self-destructive behavior, etcetera).

Hope keeps you steady. Hope keeps you grounded. Hope works with Direction and Support for you to  set and reach inspired goals. Hope is linked to the deeper pool of knowing vs. not knowing, and once you are ready, you may release yourself into it, allowing all to flow and to be available to you. Hope is connected to your Belief System or Faith, however you may refer to it: the Source, your Divine Self, the Greater Spirit, Oneness, God, the Goddess, the Light, the Universe. It is True and Good for you and that has value.

Please, enjoy Michael Card’s song, Soul Anchor, from Scribbling in the Sand: The Best of Michael Card (2002). http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uFNtVaJBJvM

In love and light,

Betsey

 

Elizabeth  Garland, CEO & Soul Coach of Soul Nourishing, LLC

M.S., NLPP, GRS

egarland@soulnourishing.com

www.soulnourishing.com

210.218.2075

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The Butterfly of Freedom

I have this framed card in my hallway that I look at daily. It used to be in my office cubicle when I worked in a corporate office, however, I became a teleworker in 2009 and work from home now, and so it graces my foyer. I decorated this frame with a metal butterfly because it is a strong message. The greeting card is called The Butterfly of Freedom, and it created by Edward Monkton. Twelve butterflies are drawn as if a child’s art project, 11 of which are within a drawn box. Our hero is the 12th butterfly who has broken free from the confines of said box, and is flying away. The other butterflies ask, “Why do you fly outside the box?” “I fly outside the box because I can.” replies our hero. “But we KNOW the box. We are SAFE inside the box.” “That, my friend, is why I leave it. For you may be SAFE… but I AM FREE!”

My challenge to you is this  … would you rather be safe or free?

I used to often opt for security and in the process ended up giving up my freedom. At least that’s what it felt like, it did not matter if it applied to a relationship or a work situation. However, in 2009 I began to make big changes in my life. Really BIG! And I broke out of my box. To be honest, some might say I probably kicked one of the walls down in the process, so there is no going back to that old box.  Would I want it anyway? What’s the point of going back to something you’ve escaped? Why go back?

What is your answer? What would you do?

The motto of this story: Fly outside the box… at least just once. You might like it! You may find adventures you never dreamt of!

In love and light, Betsey

Elizabeth Garland
www.soulnourishing.com                                                                Copyright Soul Nourishing 2011-2013

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Within Grasp

Have you ever held onto something in your hand for so long and so tight, that it hurts? Your clenched hand hurts. You’ve been holding it in a tight little fist and your fingers have been drained of all of the blood and cannot move, and are frozen in place. Yes, like that.

I did that recently, only to discover when I opened it up, what I had been holding onto was gone. I became aware of the fact that my hand was empty.

Somewhere along the way I had dropped that special treasured seed pearl, gold coin, love note or magical dream. It had fallen through my fingers somehow. My fingers were so focused on being tight against my hand, I was not cognizant of the item I should of been touching.

The other awareness I gained was that once my hand was empty, I was free to pick up a new treasure. And I did.

In love and light,

Betsey

 

Elizabeth Garland, Soul Coach

Soul Nourishing, LLC

www.soulnourishing.com

210.218.2075

Copyright  Elizabeth Garland 2012

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Celebrating the Light

Happy Chanukah, Winter Solstice, Festival of Lights, Yuletide Greetings, Merry Christmas, Kwanzaa, Happy New Year ….

What does it all mean in it’s similarities and differences?

A celebration from darkness to light; the Sun or the Son, your pick!

Shifting from despair to hope; a new beginning, a fresh start!

Finding the true meaning of love, family, friends, community; gratitude.

May you be blessed in whatever it is you celebrate, and surrounded by Love!

Yes, May Light and Love surround you, be within you and guide You, each and every Magical Day.

Blessings,

Betsey

Copyright 2011 Soul Nourishing

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Celebrate Your Abundance

So, how was your Thanksgiving? Did you celebrate the abundance in your life or was it just another day in your life? How did you choose to celebrate this year?  I chose to have an Open House and my sister and I invited several friends and acquaintances.  What ended up happening was simply amazing.

We were raised to always open our home to others during the holidays. We sent out invitations to people we knew that had mentioned going through some transitions. Sometimes a change may be difficult to deal with alone during the holiday season and it is nicer to share the time with a friend as well as family. We had appreciated new friends inviting us over last year, taking the pressure off of us to cook a meal just for the two of us alone. So, due to the size of my small kitchen and home, we thought we’d aim to feed a dozen or so and ask to make it potluck to help.

We both began cooking days before. I cooked two turkeys, and made homemade giblet gravy, gluten-free green bean casserole, squash casserole and sage sausage stuffing with apricots and dates, brie with apples and dates, a cheese and sausage tray, and then for a Southern twist picked up mint tea, pecan divinity and a no sugar added peach pie from the store. My sister baked several delicious pies (pecan and pumpkin), corn soufflé and mashed potatoes. My sister drove around the city to pick up two disabled guests who take the bus so they could attend. Guests brought another pumpkin pie, sweet potatoes with marshmallows, assortment of relishes, homemade baked bread, wines, and chocolate icebox pie. Wow! It was an incredible feast! Everyone had leftovers to take if wanted.

We sat around card tables, the sofa, or on the fireplace hearth. We chatted in several circles about many different topics –relationships, injuries, starting over, travel, family, children, weddings, mental health, and fine arts. You name it! What was wonderful about this group was their amazing spirit of perseverance. Everyone in the room had been through something, as many of us have been in one way or another, and had made it through and came out better for it. Sometimes we may not understand at the time why a challenge or loss may happen, or why an obstacle may block our progress. However, it is wonderful when down the road in the future, albeit, days, months or years later for some, when we are able to count these challenges as blessings. When this happens we begin to learn to trust the process. It has a way of working out. And when/if I get stuck and cannot see what the blessing is, I pull out my handy ‘tool box’ of resources and rummage through it to see which one will help me best for that situation.

I am so thankful for the blessings I have before me, today and every day, known and unknown. I am thankful for my diverse group of friends because they teach me. I am thankful for the reminders that I am alive, all of them – good or otherwise. I am thankful for the happiness I have and share. I am thankful for the tools and resources available to me, allowing me to nourish my heart, mind, body & soul.

May you be blessed as well!

In love, light, and happiness,

Betsey xoxo

Copyright 2011 Soul Nourishing

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Mirror, Mirror

I had a dream last night. It had many people, some I knew well and others I did not. It had chaos and drama. I awoke feeling frustrated by the person(s). I went back to sleep. I awoke refreshed.

To apply recent and renewed insights, it was a visual reminder of who I feel judges me so I may reflect on how I judge them. I can choose to change my behavior first.

So on my dog walk this morning, I thought about each person. Do I ‘judge’ them?
Do I allow myself to be the ‘victim’?
(WHY doesn’t matter. We were taught these roles as kids by watching others. I wanted to change, not analyze. It is yes/no. HOW one judges or plays victim is a better question).

So then I reflected on how that critical voice in my head judges My Self. Ah yes, her!!! Do I judge myself in these same areas? How may I be kinder, gentler, more compassionate? If I don’t know, who can I borrow these behaviors from?

Yes. It always seems to come back to a choice about working on myself, and isn’t really about Them. Funny how mirrors work.

Love,
Betsey
xoxo

Copyright 2011 Soul Nourishing

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Souls Surrounding

As All Soul’s Day crosses over to Day of the Dead festivities, I reflect on these holidays. Time to celebrate cherished memories, celebrate our loved ones who are no longer with us by eating and drinking their favorite foods and beverages. We did not do this back in Florida or in the Episcopal church. We certainly did not do this up in the mountains of Maryland or in the Methodist church. But it is prevalent here in South Texas among the Mexican and Catholic communities. 10 years ago I began learning what other countries besides Mexcio honored this tradition. I began to adopt it myself.

Today as I light my candles on my ofrenda in the corner of my dining room, I think fondly of my departed – four grandparents, my dear aunt, my former mother-in-law and brother-in-law. They have all crossed over. I say a prayer for the many 2nd, 3rd and 4th cousins I don’t know the names of anymore.

Then I wonder about the 15 step-brothers and step-sisters (in addition to my sister and myself) and I wonder who I may see again. Are they all alive? I know one that may not be. I sit and reflect on the little foster child my sister took care of for several years and who was adopted by another family. I try to hold a loving space in my heart for my father.

I send prayers out to all of these souls and most importantly to the souls of the living who are still present, loving them all. I think of my sister, mother, step-father, aunts, uncle and cousins. May you each be blessed. ♥

Love, Betsey

Copyright 2011 Soul Nourishing

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The Chase

10-18-2011 Morning Walking Meditation log

I walked the puppy at 6am with my wind suit on today. Strong gusts blowing. Stars shining. Silence. Chilly.

As I fought the wind-force and walked slowly up the steep hill, I listened to the howl inside my nylon hood and watched the Autumn leaves do their crazy cyclonic dance, I thought about the madness of The Chase. yes. That one. The one where you and I chase our tails like dogs after someting elusive. We run after each other and imaginary leaves (i.e., things, money, et al) in hopes of catching them in our sweaty palms or our greedy mouths, snapping and biting at one another in the process.

What is the purpose of this chase? Is it fun? Is it exciting? Does it have meaning?

As I stood at the top of the hill catching my breath I was under a tree and I put my hand out, open palm face up. A beautiful leaf fell into it, gently, softly, unrequested. I stared at it for a long time and then let it fall to the ground.  Sometimes it is as simple as being aware of what they are and where they might be, standing still and then holding out your hand where you are.

Be calm. It works.

Thank you. 🙂

love, Betsey

Copyright 2011 Soul Nourishing

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Self-care Tips

Are you properly nourishing yourself? When we get stressed out, whether from job or family pressures, finances or grief/loss, the first thing to go is our own self-care. So to help get back into balance this is where we begin first!

The real question is are you doing what makes you happy? Have you allowed yourself the opportunity to know what that is? You have permission to think about it at this time.

Create 4 categories: Heart, Mind, Body & Soul:

What makes your heart go pitter-pat when you think, “Wow, I wish I could do that …”? Is it a compassionate or romantic gesture for you or another? A long-awaited purchase or special meal? An indulgent luxury? Write down as many as you can think of in the next 5 minutes.

Now, what stimulates your mind? What challenges you to think outside the box? What do you read and get lost in? Write down as many as you can think of in the next 5 minutes.

Next, what feels good to your body? Is it a walk, exercise, sex, dance, water, lotion, material you wear? Write down as many as you can think of in the next 5 minutes.

What inspires your inner spirit and provides you strength? Guides you when you need it? Write down as many as you can think of in the next 5 minutes.

Now, how many of these items you wrote down are you actually doing on a daily basis? What did you say –  you don’t have time? Then let’s make a deal. See if you can pick 6 items and this next week allow yourself 10 minutes each day to do each of those 6, no more. Then work up to one hour a day. See how you feel after 5 days of nourishing yourself properly. Stress will manage itself. It is possible to give yourself one hour a day to feel love for yourself. You deserve this.

In Love and Light,

Betsey

Copyright 2011-2015 Soul Nourishing

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"It's the end of the world as we know it …

..It’s the end of the world as we know it.  It’s the end of the world as we know it and I feel fine.” REM  had a hit a long time ago. I love this tune!

Why is this such a fascinating topic to so many people? Evangelists are proclaiming the Rapture is coming. Mayans predict it is next year. Rest asure – if we keep mistreating our planet, the end will be here and it won’t be pleasant.  It will be damn cold. I am not knocking anyone’s belief systems – if you believe the end is one day or one year away, that’s cool.

I would rather believe that the lyrics of the song are more closer to the truth than one may want to admit.  “It’s the end of the world as we know it.” AS WE KNOW IT.  I have already witnessed a shift in consciousness in my world once I commited to helping others and thus, my old world has begun to end and a new one has opened to me. I have witnessed this shift in other people’s lives. I honestly think the global community is becoming more aware of what we can do together for the common good, and this SHIFT is happening. This is the LIGHT we are supposed to see.  Recognize your own humanity in the other person’s eyes and think before you do harm to them.

Maybe you need an Angel to come down and give you this message. Maybe an Alien mothership with a beam of light. Or maybe just stop dancing the night away at the Rapture party tonight trying to score with that hottie long enough to realize that you might want to think about the voluntary internal shift that Love is asking you to make.

God is Love. You are Love. I am Love. Thus We are God. We are Oneness. One Love.

In Love and Light,

Betsey

Copyright 2011 Soul Nourishing

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Blessings

Ascension is not just external. Divinity is Within – and hence – so is our Change. May you recognize what is Golden inside you today. Crack it open – this Love – and share it.

Blessings to you all this Easter weekend. It doesn’t really matter what your beliefs are – Holy Week is about Freedom. Passover and Easter are defined in similar words in many different languages.

Mastin Kipp is so inspiring to me – he writes “Today is about embracing the death of your fears and being reborn into a life of love. For your fears to die does not mean that your fears go away. No. It means that, day by day, you face your fears and use them as a compass showing you where to go. After enough practice at facing your fears, they will dim and a deeper part of you will emerge. This deeper part is the love within.”

“Every hero in every great story faces death and rebirth right before revelation. So it is with you. As you face your fears and they begin to lose power over you, you begin to step into a larger world filled with love and infinite potential.”

If you are stuck – look within for how to get unstuck. Do you need to change a behavior pattern? Or talk to someone? If you are in a bad relationship, determine how to communicate your needs or how to leave and take care of yourself. Make this personal. Don’t see it as an external event that someone else has done. Respect yourself and ask that others do the same. You are special and deserving. You are Divine.

Love, Betsey

Copyright 2011 Soul Nourishing

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Let the good times roll

soooo cheesey

The other day I was sharing some funny memories from my childhood. We were reflecting back on the 80’s and those not so glorious photos some of us have with the winged hair-do’s. I was one of those millions of girls empowered by Charlie’s Angels, a trio of badass sexy cops. We could kick ass, be intelligent and look good doing it. Hellyeah! But as I looked at this photo I realized I had a home perm that my mother had given to me. She did it to save money, and had given everyone in the family perms. We looked like we had stuck our fingers in the electrical socket and were a bunch of frizzy-haired freaks for awhile there. Hey, if David Hasselhoff could do it, so could we.

My sister moved in with me last year. She and I were having dinner and we were laughing about the home perms, and began discussing the family meals we had growing up. Mom had been a Home Economic major and was very proud of this. She was extremely organized and regimented in her grocery shopping, never strayed from the list, always had 7-14 days worth of meals planned out and all the food for it on the list. Once the food was home nobody was allowed to eat anything out of order from the meal plan, which was posted on the refrigerator. Breakfast, lunch, snacks, dinner and dessert were mapped out. If you ate something as a snack that was meant for dinner in 3 nights, may mercy be on your soul. We did have some incredibly diverse meals. We had the traditional meat and potatoes, the casseroles, lots of chicken and fish, the soups and salads. Then it became a shake and protein bar if Mom was dieting that day. We had fruit night, which started when Mom learned of different fruit fasts. We were allowed to eat any kind of fruit and even dip it in this yummy yogurt-mixed-with-cool whip stuff, so we liked Fruit Night. Then there was Cheese Night.  G.K. Chesterton may have said “Poets have been mysteriously silent on the subject of cheese”, but by golly I am going to discuss it. Nothing was served except an assortment of cheeses, and maybe some dang Ritz crackers. This could be heaven to most kids and adults, and it was delicious. However, my entire family was lactose-intolerant and asthmatic. :/  Seriously.  And so to this day I still wonder why a plate of dairy products was served for dinner. We never felt good the next day. Our intestines were all bound up. “The family that binds together…” Some of my friends over the years have learned of fruit or cheese night and to this day still lovingly ask me if they can come to my house for such a treat. I promise you I will serve you both on the same plate to aid your digestion. You bring the beverages. 🙂

It’s these treasured memories that remind us that we are a family, that we have gone through good and bad, lean and fat times. Choices may have been made that as kids we did not completely understand. As an adult, I get a better idea now, especially on those nights when an expected check had not arrived and all I was eating was peanut butter or popcorn, and reminding myself this is not completely healthy – add a piece of fruit. I have learned to keep a full pantry and frig no matter what – nutrition is important.

Today is Fat Tuesday – a day to celebrate before giving something up for Lent. You may not follow this holiday – but the idea is to indulge yourself this once.  Maybe that is what Cheese Night was all about. Who knows?!?!  Make it a healthy treat, a massage or that meal at the restaurant that just opened down the road. Maybe there is something in your life you have been telling yourself you don’t deserve. Why not treat yourself today and let yourself know you are very special and worthwhile, and deserving of it?!  Bring some abundance into your life today. Enjoy life to it’s fullest. Let the good times roll. 😀

Love, Betsey xo

Copyright 2011 Soul Nourishing

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Maintenance is not optional

Recently I was clearing out several boxes of old paperwork and due to the confidential nature of some of the files I had to begin shredding. I was a shredding machine. I was feeding paper into there by the handfuls and letting it get chopped into little bits nonstop until a horrible noise occurred – it jammed! The large plastic black yard bag was almost filled. NNOOOO!! I was on a roll and the satisfaction of having my task almost complete was too much – I had to fill the bag, even if I had to stay another hour. But the wad of paper would not budge. I hit reverse. I hit foward. I unplugged and fiddled with a paper clip. I took the top off and banged it on the floor, making the cats jump off the bed nearby. I called the customer support number. They were closed for the weekend. I cursed my luck. “How was I ever going to clean my room?” This sucked. I vented on Facebook and found another outlet of my compulsive energy. It dawned on me later that my sister had a shredder. Ah-hah!! All is not lost! I quickly grabbed her piece of heavy equipment and set it up under my desk, replacing my wounded soldier and happily began chomping the leftover pile of client paperwork from the last 15 years again.

I was filled with a mixture of emotions as I saw my career life being chewed up. I had saved all of these papers, my notes, my references, my recources, my files. Why? Everyone was going paperless these days. I no longer needed to haul this shit around. I certainly did not need these notes. What the hell. If I disappeared tomorrow, this would be crazy for my family to go through this and wonder what to do with it all. And what if it went in the wrong hands? It could be taken out of context and hurt my clients. I did not want that. It was hurting me – I was getting buried under it. I was not letting go. This became obvious when I found a card from some employees years ago, and all of the names on there no longer worked with me and I was filled with such sadness. What was I holding onto? The old career? The hopes and dreams? the friends long gone? The identity? What?!?! WTF was that noise?! A horrible sound from shredder #2 pulled me out of my deep thoughts. Yep – I had jammed this one. @#$^&$&Q! I was pissed! I kicked it! And then grabbed my foot and rubbed my toes because they hurt so bad.

What now? OK – These machines are not behaving. They are gettng stuck. How do I unstick them? hhmm. I ran to the kitchen and got the olive oil. I unplugged #2 and began pouring a small amount of oil along the seam and tried to work at the jam with a paperclip. This tedious process went on with the oil, the paper clip and constant plugging it in to test it for about 30 minutes to see if I could finally get the motor going. I felt like MacGyver and all I needed was an explosive of some sort. As I was working away at the jam in a sort of meditation, my hands covered in oil and bits of paper hitting me in the face, I wondered about the metaphor before me. This machine needed some TLC – some lubrication to clean out the gunk. Maybe I never should have put so much on it to start. I wonder if I am doing this to myself? Have I taken on too much in different areas of my life? All in the last 18 months I have recovered from surgery, gone part-time, my divorce has been final and I’ve taken in my disabled sister, and I have to work multiple jobs now. Am I getting my TLC, to keep my gears greased? Am I cleaning out my gunk? I certainly do not get much rest. There … I got it free and working. I was able to finish the 2nd bag and vacuum up the mess. But I still need to fix the first one.:) And I have so many more boxes to go through!

I was very grateful for this happening and slowing me down some and seeing that people may treat ourselves like machines but we aren’t. Something has to help us feel better when we get run down. Surround yourself with what serves to that purpose, the good in life. We need to maintain ourselves with proper nutrition, sleep, exercise, work, play, spiritual growth and love/affection, and keep it relatively in balance. Listen to what your body is telling you it needs.

Love, Betsey

Copyright 2011 Soul Nourishing

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